be who you are.

hey, i recently read a good friend's blog and saw that she's been having some... comments on the way she expresses herself and her style of writing. you can read more here: http://oi-tingah.blogspot.com/2011/12/i-will.html and here: http://oi-tingah.blogspot.com/2011/12/not-person-who-asked-last-question-i.html . i was reading through what these people said and no offence to them, but what they said was pretty much plain mean. i assume those people don't really even know my friend, so i decided to try and write about it. i am going to judge, but i hope i don't sound too judmental. haha! here goes:

to the anonymous people:
hi, i know that everyone has their own comments, their own special way of thinking and their freedom of speech. of course that means that you too, have your own opinions and the freedom to say whatever you want. but i hope you all know that your words were kinda harsh. maybe you are people who are very frank and straightforward and will never beat around the bush when it comes to your thoughts. if so, then it is understandable that you might, at times, not think twice about your words and say them.

but honestly if she was your friend, would you have said the same words without hesitation? (i'm assuming you don't know ying ting that is) if she was your friend, i'm sure you would have at least tried to consider her feelings, in spite of your frank and straightforward nature. IF YOU ARE HER FRIEND though, then you, i'm very sorry to say, are a coward. because you can't even tell your own friend your opinion face to face. and to make things worst, as her friend, you're hurting her with your words intentionally.

that being said, if you really are a stranger, then may i ask why would you say those words to another complete stranger? if i didn't know anyone that well, or at all, i would never pass such hurtful comments on that person. even if i did have anything critical to say, i would try keep it to myself because 1) i don't know the person, his/her personality and 2) due to 1), i don't  have the right to pass harsh critisim. or at the very least, at the end of it all, apologize to the person.

i feel that this is basic respect, not saying that it is A MUST. just that, i feel that this is basic people respect. if any of my words, as of right now, sound expectionaly harsh and judgemental to you, then i apologize. still, now do you know how she feels when you say that about her?

opinions are a person's own point of view and thoughts about any matter or anyone. i agree that we all have our own rights and freedom of speech, i just hope that it will not be at the expense of another person's feelings.

now, to ying ting:
hey! you already know how and what i think about this. but one more reminder: be who you are and say what you feel, for those who mind don't matter, and those who matter don't mind. stay strong. (:

yeah, so that's about it. once again, if anyone's feelings have been hurt, i sincerely apologize, because i don't mean to have a hatefest on you. but i still feel that maybe you shouldn't go around hurting other people's feelings in the first place. (just my opinion, sorry if i sould like a complete bitch.)